Having crossed the perspective-altering milestone of 40 years, I have no qualms in admitting that I have had a less than fair share of crushes, flings and infatuations. In fact, very few.
More than once, Queen’s I want to break free, “this time I know it is for real”…sounded so true to me (though not so in retrospect)…
Then my loving and lovely wife came into my life and changed everything…
Even so I have not stopped wondering what this strange feeling called love is all about.
I think love is –
A genuine, intense and pro-active interest in the spiritual and life-beyond well being of the loved one. True love is devoid of a need for possessing.
Infatuation (which is often confused as love) is essentially about possessing (or possibility of it). This is why we don’t usually get infatuated with someone we know we cannot possess, but nothing stops us from loving someone we can never possess.
I was so delighted when I discovered a celestial manifestation of true love.
Sun loves Planet Earth like no other lover I know. He is burning himself to death so that Earth lives as long as is possible.
Earth has reciprocated the love by showering Sun with her undivided attention. Swinging and twirling around him with a constancy which happens only in true love.
Sun, a true lover, has maintained safe distance, cuddling Earth with his warmth but never once trying to get closer at the cost of certain death for his beloved. He will get closer but only when the closeness cannot cause her any harm (as per scientists, Sun will start dying in another 6 billion years but Earth will die even before Sun and after death Sun will expand and engulf whatever remains of Earth).
Many a time, we let true love be adulterated by selfish interest. This prevents us from doing full justice to true love.
Boyzone’s “Love me for a reason”…says it the best…
Don’t love me for fun, girl
Let me be the one, girl
Love me for a reason
Let the reason be love